March 13, 2005

Sanctimoniuous Motherhood

Caitlin Flanagan writing for The New Yorker? I might just have to start reading it again. There are plenty of women (read: über feminists) who don't like Caitlin Flanagan. Maybe her admonition for a woman to actually consider her husband a human being, keep house not just clean it, and to rear her own children rather than outsourcing it to someone whom they pay less attention and money than the family veterinarian, irritates them. No one tells today's woman how to live her life, especially a man, and especially not a woman who doesn't completely agree with the feminist manifesto (read: liberal democrats). I love it that an intelligent and gifted female writer has drawn the sword of wit to challenge the claim that a woman is obligated to no one but herself.

The first encounter I had with Flanagan's writing was "The Wifely Duty" in the January/February 2003 The Atlantic. I read the article between gasps of hysterical laughter and hearty shouts of "Amen!" R particularly enjoyed and agreed with the advice of marital therapist Michele Weiner Davis (author of The Sex-Starved Marriage) : "'that although you might not have been thinking sexual thoughts or feeling particularly sexy, if you push yourself to 'get started' when your spouse approaches you, it feels good, and you find yourself getting into it?'" Flanagan says, " Many of her (Davis') clients have received this counsel with enthusiasm. 'I really wasn't in the mood for sex at all,' reports one of her advisees after just such a night, 'but once we got started, it was fun. I really enjoyed it.'"

Can you believe that Flanagan was purporting that a woman have sex because her husband wants to? I mean the audacity to imply that a woman is bound to be considerate of anyone else save herself. However, let us recall that a man is a selfish dog if not at his wife's beck-and-call.

The submission her liberal colleagues felt to be the most inflammatory and the most irritating was "How Serfdom Saved the Women’s Movement " published in The Atlantic, March 2004. That particular article generated quite a few letters to the editor and further cemented the growing rage against Caitlin Flanagan as both a traitor to the advancement to her gender and to her profession. She was accused of hyprocrisy (she is a writer, is that not a profession?) and as being a walking dichotomy of moral and political values, eschewing the "popular" politics demanded of women by the Feminist Union. An interesting back-and-forth discussion occurs on Slate via "e-mails" between Sara Mosle, Barbara Ehrenreich, and Caitlin Flanagan concerning the points Flanagan makes in her article. Ironically, Mosle accuses Flanagan of a bait-and-switch, when she does the very thing in redirecting the argument toward corporate mistreatment of workers, rather than admit her associates capable of commiting such evil atrocities toward their servants. Professional women just don't do such things. Zoe Baird ring a bell?

In googling and following a labyrinth of blog links, I have found Caitlin Flanagan to have been called a "dumb c_ _ t," a veritable vacuum of ignorance, "moronic, smug and offensive, a " Clarence Thomas," and a journalistic bully in Ms. Magazine, "beating up on professional working moms." Ouch! Amazing the tolerance, the openness, the acceptance of those who have differing opinions. Maud Newton quoting a GMB, basically claims that Caitlin Flanagan isn't a real writer because a) she can't possibly be a mother and a wife and like it or she wouldn't be writing about it (now let's apply that to a woman who has children but chooses her work over her family: she must not really like her children or she wouldn't be seeking to be away from them for 40-60 hours a week. Mmmm, doesn't quite work, does it?), and b) because Flanagan is such a hypocrite she simply can't be recognized as the real deal.

I don't justify to anyone why I choose rear my own children. I don't need to. The reasons, the benefits, the challenges are obvious. It amazes me that I am thought less educated, less intelligent or a stumbling block to the progression of my gender because I choose to sacrifice 10 years of my career in order to rear my own children, or choose something that accommodates child-rearing rather than sacrificing my children for 10 years of career or forcing my infants and pre-schoolers to adjust to the mother's goals and self-seeking. There are certainly exceptions that dictate a woman, or a man seek childcare outside of the home, but this is not what drives the feminist drivel. These exceptions are claimed as the standard to justify selfhood.

While walking through The Grove in Los Angeles with one of the female producers of The Larry Elder Show, she told me that she felt compelled to continue her career when she has children because "so many women sacrificed and paved the way" for her to do so. "No," I reminded her. "They paved the way for you to have a choice and not to be indebted without thought and consideration for what is ultimately best."

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February 22, 2005

The Big News

This Thursday I will be flying to Los Angeles to participate in The Larry Elder Show. It is nationally syndicated and I am sure that as it is taped, it will televise later in the year. The topic of the discussion is going to be why choosing to rear your own children over placing them in daycare while you pursue a career is better, ultimately for the family and the children. At least, that is the perspective I will carry into the conversation.

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February 08, 2005

Words to Accept and Be Thankful They Were Lived By

You are guaranteed a laugh if you read Jeff @ Beautiful Atrocities. Whether his words, or the ones to which he points. Gua-ran-teed.

Today's link that I absolutely loved (especially Patton): Varifrank What Would You Say?.

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January 19, 2005

nemo me impune lacessit

Translation of Barbra Boxer's entire line of questioning of Dr. Condoleezza Rice yesterday:

"Who do you think you are? denying your racial heritage and being a conservative Republican and wanting to serve in a white man's White House?"

Uh, yeah, Barbra. It was that obvious. I have never understood why so many black Americans (and I once read of a prominent black actress going to Africa and when asked what her ethnicity was, she replied, "African-American." The African looked at her and said, "No, you are an American with black skin. I'm African." She rethought her word choice.) have imposed the expectation of all blacks having to be a Democrat? If a black American chooses to be conservative in their politics and even (gasp!) call themselves a Republican, they are treated as a traitor to the black community (and by the way, I personally believe in one race- the human race, with varying ethnicities) and have their integrity and intelligence insulted (as was done by Barbra Boxer to Dr. Rice).

La Shawn Barber is a perfect example from the blogosphere. She is intelligent, graceful, strong, well-written and well-read. She is a Christian who has allowed her belief in God to shape her worldview rather than her culture, her peers, or her detractors. I have been reading her since about March of 2004 and have seen her attacked repeatedly for not buying into the "expected politics" of her black peers. She isn't a parrot of a white party. She uses her own mind, logic and rhetoric, influenced only by her faith to express her opinions. She isn't the only one, either.

Juliette of Baldilocks is another example of a conservative black woman. She hasn't "sold out to the Man" and hasn't compromised her integrity. She has proudly served her country in the United States Army, not some conspiritorial institution created to keep black people down. Her experiences and the opportunities she sought while in the military have lent themselves as a seasoning to her profound faith and shaping of her character into outstanding integrity, and service to the people of this country.

So, talk on Barbra Boxer. There are plenty of conservative black people out there who will continue to speak out for their fellow American citizens, promoting and encouraging thoughtful and respectful dialogue that will bring about the excellence of all peoples only at the expense of their own sweat and self-denial for the betterment of themselves and their neighbor, not at the expense of their neighbor.

P.S. Good for you, Dr. Rice. I was so proud that you didn't allow the malicious intent of Senator Boxer's questioning to rattle you, but rather reminded her to keep the dialogue away from false accusations and personal agendas.

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September 16, 2004

For the Record

I don't care about the forged documents (oh dear, I guess that my diction there does show an opinion on the whole matter). The reasons I will be voting for George W. Bush remain the same:

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September 02, 2004

Give the man a wrench!

O.K. so the music is a little like a Polish-American party, but, I loved this post.

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Jail House Rock

Via Zombyboy, you have to read this. I am a new fan, Shawn, and have found a new knight to add to the table.

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September 01, 2004

Vice Commander-in-Chief

One of the things I have appreciated and respected about Dick Cheney is that he is actually fulfilling the role of a VP. He didn't just fill a PR/traditional role that it seems most have been relegated to in the past.

He advises and counsels but doesn't seek to upstage. I think him knowledgeable, capable, principled, forthright, and perfect as W.'s running mate.

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Give 'Em Zell!

Oh. My. Goodness!

Zell Miller was incredible! What a pep rally! We were clapping and whooping and hollering!

A few of my favorite snippets:

"My family is more important than my party."

"Nothing makes this Marine madder than calling American troops occupiers instead of liberators. "

American troops aren't liberators? "Tell that to the half of Europe that is free because Roosevelt sent American troops."

"American troops are liberators abroad and defenders of freedom at home."

After listing all the ways that Kerry had voted against proper armament of our forces, he followed with this:
"U.S. Forces armed with what? Spitballs?!"

The camera did a zoom on Rudy Giuliani standing, grinning, and clapping right next to former President George H.W. Bush, who was by the way, laughing and shaking his head obviously loving every minute of Zell Miller's invigorating speech.

"Twenty years of votes can tell you a lot more than twenty weeks of campaigning."

"Campaign rhetoric tells people who you want them to think you are. Voting Records show more about what you believe deep down."

About George W. Bush:

"He's the same man Saturday night that he is on Sunday mornings."

"[He's] Not a slick talker, but a straight shooter."

"He has a spine of tempered steel."

"I have knocked on this man's soul and found someone home."

How motivating! How insightful and a lovely way to close, with obvious respect and conviction for the leadership of President Bush.

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August 30, 2004

RNC Report

Just popping in really quick. I am having to watch the convention on my PBS station as the local NBC opted for Fear Factor. Ironic.

Anyway, I was so encouraged to listen to Zainab Al-Suwaij, Executive Director of the American Islamic Congress and a native of Basra.

A few quotes from her wonderful speech:

"There has been a war raging in Iraq for the last three decades."

"Today[sic], Iraq enjoys a new day."

"The United States has given[sic] the most precious gift any nation has ever given another-the gift of democracy and freedom to determine it's own future."

"I tell you proudly that their noble sacrifice was not in vain."

"We[sic] will never forget what your sons and daughters have done for us."

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August 15, 2004

The Democratic Process

As you may or may not already be aware, members of the Watcher's Council hold a vote every week on what they consider to be the most link-worthy pieces of writing around... per the Watcher's instructions, I am submitting one of my own posts for consideration in the upcoming nominations process.

Here is the most recent winning council post, here is the most recent winning non-council post, here is the list of results for the latest vote, and here is the initial posting of all the nominees that were voted on.

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August 13, 2004

A Few Last Words

O.K. so I said I was going to bed, and after I post this, I am.

But I skipped over to La Shawn's and found this exciting news :)

Hats off to the Conservative Brotherhood that includes several my of daily reads: Juliette, La Shawn, and Booker Rising.

How wonderful and encouraging. The NRO article by writer Dan LeRoy includes a few quotes from several of the members who the liberal media would rather paint as a meager bunch swimming desperately against the tide. These bloggers, who are all excellent writers, prove differently and are finding their effectiveness to be far reaching; even to the attention of The National Review.

Congratulations to all.

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August 05, 2004


Update: How in the world did I miss Jerry's accurate and detailed assessment?

What says the John-John Kerry Camp to the Swift Boat Veterans for Truth (i.e. the men who served with Kerry and who better to asses a man's character than his peers?) to this ad? Or how about this one?

Via Pipe Line News

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August 03, 2004

Hide and Seek

So, I see all those looking for information on Janet McElligot have found me. In the last day, 18 out of 34 hits were from people using search engines to find Janet McElligot. I linked an article that I found quite interesting via Pipe Line News. This was some information I knew that the main stream media would carefully and purposefully avoid because it goes directly against their goal of decimating the character and integrity of President Bush.

To those using the many search engines that led you here, I hope you found something to either challenge your thinking or solidify it.

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July 15, 2004


You know, Norah soothes my windshield, too, Mr. Wilson.

P.S. Which CD?

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